Big life shifts such as ending a relationship, moving to a new place, or leaving a job can make you feel untethered, even when you are surrounded by people. It is not just sadness. It is an ache for belonging. Therapy is not about fixing who you are. It is about slowly rebuilding connection, meaning, and a sense of “home” wherever you are right now.
“I remember stepping off a plane into a city that was supposed to be new and exciting, yet it felt empty. I missed familiar rhythms, familiar faces, and even old routines. It was not that the place was bad. I was simply out of sync with myself. In therapy, I learned how to move gently back into connection, both with others and with my own life again.“
Major transitions can unsettle anyone. Many people feel disconnected or grief-struck without realizing it is a reaction to change, not a personal failure. Connection and belonging can return, and you do not have to make that return alone.
Therapy is a safe place to:
Talk through what is shifting and begin to find your footing again
Let yourself feel what you are really feeling, not just “cope”
Reconnect with the daily routines and people that ground you
Build intention into your days, even in small ways
Create a sense of belonging on your own terms
We begin with what you are feeling and what you are missing. Many people start weekly and then adjust the frequency as they find their rhythm again. You will leave with small, practical ways to feel more anchored, such as rituals, points of connection, and routines that bring meaning back into your life.
Reconnecting rituals such as reaching out or revisiting small joys
Guided self-reflection to make sense of what is changing
Journaling prompts to capture your thoughts and feelings
Gentle routines that give your days a grounding anchor
Transitions can feel like a low-level grief even when life has improved. Therapy helps you acknowledge both the loss and the new beginning.
Most clients notice small shifts such as more warmth, ease, or clarity within a few weeks as they begin to feel more seen and grounded.
Support during a transition often prevents loneliness from turning into long-term disconnection.
Do you have more questions? Check out my FAQ page.
You do not have to wait until you feel “better.” You only need someone who sees you as you are right now.
I offer counselling for loneliness and life transitions in-person from my Nanaimo office and online for clients across BC, including Parksville, Ladysmith, and Victoria.
Here are a few resources you may find helpful if you’re looking to understand or manage depression or emotional numbness.
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression by Terrence Real
A landmark book exploring how men often mask depression and loneliness with anger, withdrawal, or overwork. Real offers an empathetic, therapeutic perspective on how men can reconnect with themselves and others.
Counselling for Burnout in Nanaimo
Learn how therapy can help you reset, set boundaries, and restore balance when work stress feels overwhelming.
Counselling for Depression & Emotional Numbness in Nanaimo
Understand the connection between long-term anxiety, burnout, and emotional fatigue.