A Grounded Perspective on Being a Man Today
Present, curious, and fully accepting of the person in front of me
Most men come to see me because they’ve reached a breaking point with “sucking it up.” They are successful, they provide, and they do what’s expected of them—but internally, they feel disconnected, unappreciated, or like they’re just performing a role.
I know that feeling because I’ve lived it.
My path to becoming a counsellor wasn’t a straight line through academia. It was born out of my own struggles with identity, the pressure to have all the answers, and the exhaustion of trying to hold everything together alone. I’ve faced the same hurdles in relationships, parenting, and career that many of my clients face today.
That lived experience is what allows me to connect with you—not as an expert looking down from a textbook, but as someone who understands the weight of those expectations and the relief that comes from finally setting them down.
How I See the Work
I believe therapy for men shouldn’t feel like a medical appointment or a lecture. It’s more like two people climbing their own mountains. I’m not standing on some “finished” peak looking down on you; I’m on my own climb, too.
The difference is my vantage point. From where I’m standing, I can see things on your mountain that you might not be able to see yet—the hidden trail, the loose rock, or the easier path around the bend. My role isn’t to tell you how to climb, but to offer perspective and tools that allow you to choose the best path forward for yourself.
When you work with me, you’re getting a “6 or 7” on the directness scale. Here’s what that looks like in practice:
I'm here to help you make sense of the terrain you're in, not criticize how you got there.
The climb is heavy enough; we'll use humor to keep things grounded and cut through the tension.
I offer reflections that aren't based on textbooks, but on what actually works to help you find your footing and keep moving.
What I Understand
Whether you’re navigating divorce and rebuilding your identity as a father, burning out in a career that no longer feels meaningful, struggling to reconnect with your partner, or searching for direction in a life that’s started to feel hollow—I’ve worked with men in all of these spaces.
I know the specific weight each of these transitions carries. I know how coping mechanisms like overwork, screens, and avoidance show up differently depending on what’s happening in your life. And I know that understanding why you’re reaching for these patterns is the first step to building something steadier.
Community and Accountability
I don’t just talk about this work; I live it. For years, I’ve been an active member of a men’s group here in Nanaimo. This community continues to teach me about the strength it takes to be honest, the value of accountability, and the relief that comes from finally dropping the mask.
That experience of being a man among men is what allows me to sit across from you with genuine understanding and respect for the courage it takes to show up.
Professional Background & Credentials
- Diploma in Transpersonal Therapeutic Counselling (Clearmind International)
- Graduate Certificate in Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy (Vancouver Island University)
- Specialized Training in Somatic and Trauma-Informed Approaches
Professional Membership
Association of Cooperative Counselling Therapists (ACCT), #3037
Education
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), 2025
- VIU Psychedelic-Assisted Therapy Graduate Certificate, 2025
- Experiential Ketamine-assisted Therapy Training, 2023 & 2025
- Transpersonal Therapeutic Counselling Diploma, 2023
- Compassionate Inquiry: Self-Study Course, 2023
- Somatic Psychedelic Therapy Training, 2023
Ready to climb your own mountain?
Book a free 15-minute consult and let’s see if we’re a fit.